What to do with that middle schooler…junior high girl…lost child… between childhood and adulthood?
Our society pushes these girls to grow up way too soon. We see the shocking scenes in the media that many in our society deem “normal.”
I say that it’s not normal and there’s no such thing as this Western adolescent mentality – other than the biological changes. And I’ve got an oil for that.
Why shouldn’t she still be that same sweet little girl who holds your hand while shopping and tells you her dreams before bed? Our society says that it’s acceptable for tweens and teens to be belligerent and defiant. Why? It’s just another lie from the devil that divides families. And it’s starting younger and younger.
When I was a girl, we went from child to junior to adult clothing. There were no tween lines of clothing in stores encouraging girls to look older than they are. We should not have little girls wearing makeup and high heels and making “come hither” looks at boys. It used to be just certain high-end clothing catalogs, but I’ve seen it recently in department store Sunday ad inserts. It’s getting closer and closer to what everyone considers “normal.” My husband is disturbed by seeing girls when he can’t tell if they’re 15 or 25 in age. I wonder what high school and college boys think! What does Jesus think?
Even in the Christian world, we compromise values to fit in with the world. Society says to protect with vaccinations against STD’s and with contraceptive devices instead of discipling and educating in the Word. The devil and the world want us to think that’s it’s hopeless for anyone to wait until marriage to have sex.
God spoke to me recently through this song The Middle by Jimmy Eat World. Now, hold on. I know you’re probably better that I am and never listen to secular music if you can help it. I commend you! I feel led to be up on what’s popular with the youth for my ministry opportunities. So bear with me.
When I researched it, the video (while inappropriate for kids) is quite powerful about peer pressure. The good kids win in this video! Woot! The video I include here is not the original, but just the lyrics and song (so you’re safe!). You can find the original, inappropriate-for-young-eyes-video on your own with a simple Google search. I won’t link it here lest I offend.
Synopsis of the video: The “cool kids” are all at a house party wearing only their underwear, drinking bottles of beer, and making out. The camera follows a lovely young lady with a fur-trimmed coat and a cross necklace through the house until she meets a boy and does what everyone else is doing. A boy and girl show up in clothing and are “left out.” They start to undress so they can fit in and realize they don’t have to do what everyone is doing. They can leave and retain their dignity. Such a message from a mainstream band!
So, what did God say to me?
So glad you asked.
That gorgeous girl in the video with the cross necklace represents compromised Christians. These kids are lost. Their faith isn’t strong enough; their foundation is shaky; they are weak; they have no Christian role models. They struggle with living in the world and can’t stand strong against the pressures to fit in.
…for Demas, because he loved this world, has deserted me… ~2 Timothy 4:10a
I knew girls like that when I was in school. I didn’t understand it, but I knew I wanted no part of it. Those “Sunday Christians” didn’t appeal to me, but I didn’t know why yet. They have that appearance of being Christian, but they go the way of the world.
For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul? ~Matthew 16:26
God had His finger on me, but it was many years before I knew it.
Those two kids who almost compromise? They realize their potential mistake just in time and support one another. They have the victory.
I pray that our girls – all our youth – can fight temptation of this world and have the victory.
I recently met a kindred spirit in an Air Force chaplain’s wife. Jean told me they have three wonderful children whom they successfully raised for the Lord. They just dropped off their youngest, a son, at his freshman dorm to begin college. They are officially empty nesters. Their daughters, aged 25 and 23, are still virgins and are engaged to be married (or so close they can taste it) to wonderful Christian young men. Praise God for that testimony as a mama!
It is possible! I pray that I have that kind of success raising my children to further the Kingdom of God.
Who do you want teaching your kids about sex?
Culture? Lady Gaga? Miley Cyrus?
Or you as a parent with the Bible?
I know which I choose.
Yes, it’s hard!
Resources for Discipling Daughters:
- Whatever Girls
- Daring Daughters
- Blog Series from Embracing Destiny
- MOD Squad blog
- 7 Things We Should Tell Our Daughters
- 10 Things Girls Should Study
- Beauty in the Heart Bible Study from Doorposts
- Praying for Our Youth
- More To Be ministry and blog
“Clowns to the left of me,
Jokers to the right, here I am,
Stuck in the middle with you…”