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Homeschooling with little ones (under 3 or 4) is nearly impossible.  There, I said it.  It’s the truth.

Here’s my life in a nutshell.  I have 4 boys, ages 6 1/2 (we’re finishing up kindergarten), 4 1/2, 2 1/2, and 5 months.  We relocated a couple years ago for my husband’s job, so there are no family members around.  I breastfeed the baby 24/7.  My husband also travels quite a bit.  I have a four-bedroom house and I do not have a maid.  We live debt free and on a tight budget.

I love homeschooling….when the littles are calm and I can ACTUALLY TEACH my oldest.  I love to involve the toddler and preschooler as well, but they don’t have a set curriculum.  Now that my five-month-old is up much more during the day, I find school time is hard Every. Single. Day.  Calendar time, long periods of read-alouds, and any sort of structure is a thing of the past.  The day depends on the baby’s and toddler’s moods, whether daddy is traveling, and if there is illness in the house (it seems like someone is always fighting something!).

My house is a disaster much of the time.  The boys are always in different directions and it seems like I’m nearly always undressed feeding the baby!

Lately I’m trying to make sure to have 10-20 minutes for reading and math and Bible time so that we get the basics done.  I usually am feeding the baby while this is happening and the toddler is watching a cartoon.  He does not care to nap.  That’s putting it mildly.

Where is this lady going with this?

Honestly.  That’s it.  I just really wanted to share what my homeschooling life looks like right now. I rely on the grace of Jesus Christ daily.  I feel his love around me and I just pass that on to my kiddos and husband.  I am no one special.  I don’t always get to read my Bible daily.  I wear spandex pants and a big t-shirt to the grocery store, and I don’t buy organic apples.

I do know that in my crazy messy days, Jesus is there with me.  He loves me and my kids, and we’re right where we’re supposed to be.  I know that even in these days when all I accomplish is getting the pee stains off the wall in the bathroom, I am here for a purpose and there will always be new challenges.

I know there are many of you that are in these motherhood trenches.  Some of you may laugh as you remember these days when yours were little.  Some of you may be enduring many more challenges than most others.  However, know that what you are doing daily in your home, with little ones or big ones, it worth something in Jesus’ eyes.  Max Lucado put it so well:

“With God there are no accidents.  Every incident is intended to bring us closer to Him.”  – Max Lucado (A Gentle Thunder)

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About Carlie Kercheval

Carlie Kercheval is a happily married stay-at-home homeschooling mom. She and her college sweetheart have been blessed with 3 precious children to raise while traveling the world as a military family. Carlie is the founder of Today's Frugal Mom™, So You Call Yourself a Homeschooler?™ and Managing Your Blessings. Carlie and her husband co-author the Learning to Speak Life™ family Bible studies and together they co-host the Learning to Speak Life™ Radio Show. When she is not busy enjoying her family and the great outdoors, you can typically find her cozied up somewhere under a blanket with a good book. You can connect with her on Facebook, Pinterest, and Twitter.


  1. Very well said lovely blog!

  2. Oh, I love this! I just want to give you a great big hug! This is just about where I feel a lot of the time, too – QUICK, GET ALL THE SCHOOL STUFF OUT, THE BABY’S SLEEPING!!! Right there with you, sister.

  3. Christi says:

    You are not alone, my sister! I’m in the trenches with you, although my breastfeeding days are over. It does get less chaotic with time. I encourage you to join a christian homeschool co-op. The one I belong to has been nothing but helpful and encouraging.

  4. I love it! I have little ones as well and I don’t have any older ones to help! But homeschooling is important to me (yes I have started early…really enjoying the Preschool Prep Series). Anyways, just a thought of something that has changed my life…(no I don’t get paid to say this…I have no connection whatsoever, but God placed this book in my life, and although it may not help everyone, I’m sure there are others out there like me that it can really help)! This book called “Managers of their Homes.” I bought a used copy off of Ebay and it has taught me to schedule in a different way that I ever have before (I am always one of those people making a list and schedule, but not seeing it through after something goes wrong 10 minutes into my day). It’s wonderful and is packed full of wisdom. Hope this helps someone as it has helped me!

  5. I am so right there with you!! Mine are 9, 6, and 3 months. Our bed has become where we do schoolwork because I can feed the baby while still havIng a hand free, and be able to spread out books et al. Not saying we always get school done however, sometimes I’m just plain tired! We moved this year so I can feel you on that one too! Sometimes it’s nice to know I’m not alone! Thank you for your post!
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  6. Jessica says:

    ” I know that even in these days when all I accomplish is getting the pee stains off the wall in the bathroom, I am here for a purpose and there will always be new challenges.”
    Haha! I had to chuckle at this because just the other day I was doing this and thinking, “Why am I scrubbing urine off of the baseboards again? Oh, yeah, little boys.”
    I am now at a point where I have older ones to help out (I have 8, ages 18-5 mos.) and our school days can go more smoothly for the most part, but as far as life in general, we still have days (weeks, months, seasons?! lol) like this! We had a baby and and a move within six days of each other this year. That means almost three months of absolutely no school work and just trying to find our normal again. Just when I think we’ve worked out the kinks and found our groove-BAM! Another curveball…it’s just the stuff of life! Yes, it does make some things easier when you have older ones to help more, but it’s never that serene, Mary Cassatt painting that we pictured homeschooling to be! However, as every homeschool mommy knows, there is a calm amidst the chaos; that peace that surpasses all understanding, knowing that this is exactly where we are supposed to be.

    (P.S. to another commenter: Hi Courtney! I read your comment and figured out it was you–I promise I’m not stalking you, lol!)